And all the married ladies say, "Do it all while you're single because when you're married you won't have that pleasure". Wow, talk about pressure. Don't get me wrong. I completely agree with them. I do. But I also understand the pressure that puts on us singles.
Do it all- missions, mentoring, friendships, travel.
Use those resources- money, time, freedom.
Do not waste your extra time.
Sounds good, but I'm a little stumped. Where does God's leading come into the equation. Again, I realize that ignoring the leading of God is not what these women are insinuating. But singles can get that confused, or maybe that's just me. I've felt the pressure to pick up as many mission trips I can hold, to plan as many traveling adventures as I can afford (make that none), and to mentor as many girls as I can find. You know what I've found? I don't feel a particular leading in any direction mission wise; I have little funds to travel, even though I would love too; and their are few girls in my sphere of influence in this particular season. I've prayed asking God have I missed the boat. I want to do missions, I want to travel, and I want to mentor. So why so little direction? Where's the opportunities I'm suppose to have.
There are always opportunity to go on missions trips and pour into people. Am I missing what's right in front of me? No, I'm not surrounded by a bunch of girls looking for mentoring, but I work with a bunch of adults who need the saving grace of Jesus. No, I'm not sure where God is leading me missionally, in the way that we're most accustom to (internationally), but I'm a part of a church that needs people willing to get messy. I can listen for the leading of the Spirit to "go". No, I don't have the funds to travel whenever I want, but I have to ability to save for special trips. Even though I'm stretched thin opening Lady Belle's, I have time with a little maneuvering and saying "no" to some things.The thing to remember is we follow a personal God with a personal leading in each of our lives. I can easily get caught up in looking around me at all the "cool" stuff single women my age are involved in and beat myself up for not "using my singleness". That's wrong.
When Peter saw him, he asked, “Lord, what about him?” Jesus answered, “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you? You must follow me" (John 21:21-22).
Can you tell what God's been teaching me? I think I've blogged about "Follow Me" in at least three posts lately.
What I'm trying to say is "Yes, we should definitely be using our singleness for the Kingdom", but that means following Him. Let's seek God for our lives. Let's pour ourselves on the alter of His will. Let's give our all for His glory. But let's do it all under the leading of the Holy Spirit.
Traveling? Sure, why not!
But don't follow other's standards. Don't follow your own standards. Follow the standards of the Lord Jesus Christ.
He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the LORD require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God (Micah 6:8)?
In His Name,